CHILDREN OF GAY MARRIAGE AND SINGLE PARENTS

Last week we blogged on children of divorce. Today, we consider the many children denied a sense of identity due to unknown or absent parents. Both gay and single parents using donor sperm or a known donor for conception purposes will produce children with an innate drive to know their missing biological parents.

When society changes marriage, it changes parenthood. The divorce revolution and the rise in single-parent childbearing has weakened ties of fathers to their children and introduced a host of other players at times called “parents.”

Gay marriage and intentional single parenthood doubles down on the trauma of divorce, as it desires children without one biological parent that supplies their identity. Wanting a child, without considering that child’s wellbeing, springs from the same root as using sex primarily for recreation: personal self-interest. It perpetuates adult “rights” to a child at the expense of children’s need to be raised by their natural mother and father.

The Commission on Parenthood’s Future, published ten years ago, documented many cases of children denied the knowledge of their biological parent’s identity and the pain it caused. Many consider themselves “lopsided,” or “half-adopted.” The donor, usually unknown, is often characterized as “half of who I am.” A mother of a donor-inseminated child admitted: “It never even occurred to me this child might want to find her biological father someday.”

Brandi Walton, a lesbian’s daughter, in a letter to the LGBT community last year, complained, “I yearned for the affection that my friends received from their dads, and spent as much time with those friends as I could.” After several aborted relationships, she met her husband, “and everything clicked.” Later she “tried to talk to my mom about how difficult my life was, but she simply cannot relate because she was raised by a mom and a dad.” Even with male support from grandfathers and uncles, “it always felt second-hand.”

These children do not speak for all gay-raised men or women. Parents of all families, whether traditional, gay, or single, make good and bad parents. But too many children eventually fall into this identity fog. Unfortunately, experience has shown the LGBTQ community to be intolerant and self-absorbed, demanding tolerance with passion, yet not returning it. They attack and silence anyone who disagrees with them.

As irregular families increase, those perpetuating the drive to gender mainstreaming will continue to ignore the mounting number of children in pain. Studies constantly show a powerful consensus among social scientists of the benefits of traditional marriage for children. The New York Times not long ago reported: “From a child’s point of view, according to growing social science research, the most supportive household is one with two biological parents in a low-conflict marriage.”

There are no reports of children from traditional families ever wishing they had gay or single parents! The unnatural forcing of these irregular families is self-defeating, and a general return to natural families will eventually prevail.