Last week
we blogged on children of divorce. Today, we consider the many children denied
a sense of identity due to unknown or absent parents. Both gay and single
parents using donor sperm or a known donor for conception purposes will produce
children with an innate drive to know their missing biological parents.
When
society changes marriage, it changes parenthood. The
divorce revolution and the rise in single-parent childbearing has weakened ties
of fathers to their children and introduced a host of other players at times
called “parents.”
Gay
marriage and intentional single parenthood doubles down on the trauma of divorce,
as it desires children without one biological parent that supplies their
identity. Wanting a child, without considering that child’s wellbeing, springs
from the same root as using sex primarily for recreation: personal self-interest.
It perpetuates adult “rights” to a child at the expense of children’s need to
be raised by their natural mother and
father.
The
Commission on Parenthood’s Future, published ten years ago, documented many
cases of children denied the knowledge of their biological parent’s identity
and the pain it caused. Many consider themselves “lopsided,” or “half-adopted.”
The donor, usually unknown, is often characterized as “half of who I am.” A
mother of a donor-inseminated child admitted: “It never even
occurred to me this child might want to find her biological father someday.”
Brandi
Walton, a lesbian’s daughter, in a letter to the LGBT community last year, complained,
“I yearned for the affection that my
friends received from their dads, and spent as much time with those friends as
I could.” After several aborted relationships, she met her husband, “and
everything clicked.” Later she “tried to talk to my mom about how difficult my
life was, but she simply cannot relate because she was raised by a mom and a
dad.” Even with male support from grandfathers and uncles, “it always felt second-hand.”
These children do not speak for all gay-raised
men or women. Parents of all families, whether traditional, gay, or single, make
good and bad parents. But too many children
eventually fall into this identity fog. Unfortunately, experience has shown the
LGBTQ community to be intolerant and self-absorbed, demanding tolerance with
passion, yet not returning it. They attack and silence anyone who disagrees
with them.
As
irregular families increase, those perpetuating the drive to gender
mainstreaming will continue to ignore the mounting number of children in pain. Studies constantly show a
powerful consensus among social scientists of the benefits of traditional marriage
for children. The New York Times not
long ago reported: “From a child’s point of view, according to growing social
science research, the most supportive household is one with two biological
parents in a low-conflict marriage.”
There are no reports of children from
traditional families ever wishing they had gay or single parents! The
unnatural forcing of these irregular families is self-defeating, and a general
return to natural families will eventually prevail.
